I went to the doctor recently and was diagnosed with high cholesterol. I tried to justify my results by arguing that it was “good” cholesterol. No dice. My doctor told me I either needed to reduce the amount of dairy I eat or take medicine. Am I really going to give up pizza, cheeseburgers and chocolate milk? In that moment I realized I was being asked to move on from my 6 year old self.
I had a similar experience when I completed a personality assessment last week. I received my results from the Personal Drivers assessment that we created and was forced to process my unfounded fears – doesn’t everybody feel rejected when they aren’t asked for their advice? Apparently not.
These unfounded fears lead to unproductive discussions, unnecessary emotional stress and distractions that impact my well-being. I need to reduce my fears! But, fears are like chocolate cake for me; they provide so much satisfaction in the moment but make me feel like crap almost immediately after eating it.
Unfortunately, these fears have a larger impact on me and the people around me than high cholesterol. When I act on my fears relationships can be damaged, my stress levels become higher and I become unproductive.
Changing a behavior is really hard – I will still sneak a couple of pieces of pizza here and there. Overcoming a fear is even harder! In both cases, the starting point is recognizing the need to change. Once that happens, it is critical to create strategies that will change actions and then having accountability to encourage the necessary change.
If you aren’t sure what fears are your “chocolate cake”, contact us and we can provide you with our personal drivers assessment. It will reveal the fear that gives you pleasure in the moment but makes you crash after the initial sugar rush.